Apr 27 2013

PETTINESS

I often wonder what kind of mentality a person has to possess in order to allow them to inflict pain and misery onto another human being just for the hell of it. Especially upon one who has done nothing to deserve that kind of treatment? You know the ones. They smile in your face all the while plotting your down fall with lies and deceptions. And it doesn’t matter that you have nothing but good-will towards them, it only seems to fuel their fire of anger and hatred. It seems the nicer you are the nastier they become.

Is your life so pathetic that instead of bettering yourself you would rather tear another a part just to feel good about your own sad predicament? Is it jealousy that motives this type of behavior? Or is it just your evil personality that is rotten to the core? Did you finally figure out that you lack the moral tools to compete with the true men/women of the world? These are some of the same people who start their morning social media status with a quoted scripture! Really? O_o

This type of behavior is usually the number one choice of females, although I have witnessed a few men stoop to this level of pettiness from time to time. Being a woman myself, I never got the whole “I hate that bitch” because she is pretty/classy/sophisticated/intelligent or just a downright nice individual. Why try to tear down a person because he or she may be everything that you are not? Why not look in a mirror and do an assessment of your own life and if you find that it comes up short, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

You trying to wreck havoc in someone else’s life only takes away from your character and reveals you as insignificant and small-minded. This behavior does not make you appear as a champion of the down trodden, but only as someone who is insecure and is worthy of pity and shame.

STOP THE MADNESS!!!!

Mar 22 2013

FORGIVENESS

Asking For Forgiveness

Asking For Forgiveness (Photo credit: hang_in_there)

As I perused an article on the cancellation of Michael Vick’s book signing due to death threats, I wondered if people truly believe in the act of forgiveness. If I’m not mistaken, the man was tried, convicted and served jail time for his crimes. So, why is he still being vilified?  We, in this society, talk a good game about forgiveness and redemption, but when it comes right down to it, we are the most vindictive lot on the planet.

Looking on all of this madness, I wouldn’t be surprised at all, if the majority of these angry threatening folks call themselves Christians. I would like to know what Bible these folks read from that gives them the right to terrorize someone after they have paid their debt to society. And while they are making this man’s life a living hell, what goes through their own minds.  Suppose the tables were turned and they found themselves in Michael Vick’s position. Would they think the treatment just and fair? What would they do, if someone were to drag skeletons out of that deep, dark, hidden closet of theirs?

Why is it, as human beings, we will continue to crucify someone for past wrong doings, even after they have made amends by God’s and man’s standards? For those of you who claim to be Christians, that is NOT very Christ like. When will your thirst for blood be appeased? And I find it ironic that some want to inflict the very same violence upon this man for which he went to prison for; violence that they claim to abhor, but are all too ready to participate in for the cause. And what cause is that?

I am grateful that my salvation and redemption is not in the hands of an unforgiving, vindictive human being.

Matthew 6:14

IF YOU FORGIVE OTHERS OF THEIR TRESPASSES, THE MOST HIGH WILL FORGIVE YOU.

Hypocrisy

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Mar 7 2013

Sienna’s Secret

Sienna's Secret

Sienna Mendez thought she knew all there was to know about her deceased mother, until Pilar’s attorney shows up on her doorstep claiming otherwise.  Not only has Sienna learned that her mother has built an empire of five-star resorts in Jamaica, but had purposely kept it from her. When she arrives at the flagship resort, Sienna’s Secret, to claim her inheritance, she finds that Pilar’s secrets are more than meets the eye.

International attorney Matthias Bennett is sent to Jamaica to handle Sienna’s estate. It is supposed to be a simple and quick property transfer. But to his surprise, there is a lot more going on at the Mendez’s resorts, besides sand, fun and surf. After encountering some shady dealings, he and Sienna are soon caught up in a charade that leads them to heated nights—and the biggest secret of them all!

Follow Sienna and Matthias into a world of deception, blackmail and love in Sienna’s Secret.

 

Mar 5 2013

MORE WAR ON WOMEN – NO DIVORCE

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World War I propaganda poster by Edward Penfield shows a young woman rowing a boat named “Victory”. Text: “Every girl pulling for victory – Victory Girls United War Work Campaign.” 1 print (poster) : lithograph, color ; 70 x 56 cm. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I just finished an article that has thrown a whole new element in divorces. It seems that lawmakers in Iowa want to put a stop to divorce of parents with minor children. On the surface this may appear to be a good thing until you read a little further into the article, where you will find several things wrong with this bill.

The first problem: For some reason, they have linked divorce with the promiscuity of teen girls. While reading this, my mouth fell open. What does one thing have to do with the other? One supporter of the bill claimed that it’s necessary to prevent teen girls from having sex. For the sake of argument, how is this a contributing factor to only teen girls? What about teen boys?

How is it that females in this society get labeled, blamed or crucified as the result of someone else’s bad behavior? So all girls whose parents get a divorce are going to be promiscuous? Why aren’t teen boys taught to abstain or restrain themselves? Why has the burden been placed at the feet of females?

The second problem: Forcing someone to remain in a marriage that they clearly want out of, in my opinion, will increase domestic violence, making the situation more volatile for all involved; husband, wife, children and even the family pet. Who wants to rear children in a household where the parents hate each other’s guts? I can see the police visiting these households on a regular basis.

The third and final problem: Why is it that men feel the need to regulate every aspect of the female life, from birth control to job choices? My problem with this war on women is the fact that men have a lot of opinions as to how we should live our lives but fail to see that in most cases they are the problem.

Concerning birth control/child support, why can’t men solve that problem by keeping it in their pants or get a vasectomy, instead of placing all the responsibility on the woman.  Why won’t fathers, teach their sons to be more responsible when it comes to women? Boys are told to sow their oats and have a good time, while girls are told to be virtuous. Well, who do they think boys are sowing their oats with? And while these boys are planting seeds everywhere, why can they get away with degrading a female by calling her a whore if she has too many sexual partners? Doesn’t that also apply to them as well, since they are sleeping with as many said whores as they can?

MEN, STOP THE MADNESS THAT YOU HAVE INFLICTED ON US. REMEMBER, IF IT WASN’T FOR A WOMAN YOU WOULDN’T BE HERE!

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Feb 18 2013

CHANCES

I’ve thought about this for a long time now and just felt the need to put my thoughts down in print.

We are often criticized for giving someone a second, third or even fourth chance, after that person has hurt us. The first thing that we want to tell a friend or relative: I wouldn’t put up with that, I would leave (especially without trying to work it out). Or that he/she hurt you, he/she doesn’t deserve a second chance, cut your losses and keep it moving. And my favorite one: You would be a fool to take him/her back.

And yes I am guilty of saying and doing all of the above. But even as I said those things, I often wondered if I was doing the right thing. It never felt right to me. One day I had to ask myself. If I am to become a fool for giving second chances, what does that make our Creator?

Those of us who say we strive to follow the lessons and laws of the Creator, do we ever think about how we hurt Him and how many chances that He gives us, especially when we don’t deserve those chances? We feel we are justified in accepting as much redemption as possible, because we somehow feel entitled, just because He gives us multiple do-overs. But when it comes to our fellow-man/woman we are quick to dismiss without so much as a second thought or look back.

Suppose the Creator treated us the same way. WE would be in terrible trouble for sure. WE would be doomed for sure. So the next time you criticize someone for taking back a cheating spouse, or a parent for believing an adult child’s lies in hope that said child has changed, or any other person who may have trespassed against you (except if there is abuse involved, of course), think about if the Creator didn’t give you another chance. We shouldn’t be quick to dismiss if we aren’t quickly dismissed by HIM.

The next time you feel unforgiving and refuse to give a second chance or advise someone to walk away, remember, HE could have said, I’ll cut my losses and keep it moving!

Feb 15 2013

INNOCENT? ROUND 2

A Florida man loses his life protecting his 11-year-old daughter from home invaders. He did what any true parent would do. But this isn’t good enough for some of the mass public. Instead of taking the news story for what it is, and have some sympathy, some have taken to criticizing the man’s past behavior, as if to say he somehow deserved being murdered in his own home.

*Sigh*

Others have taken it further to say, because of his past criminal background he shouldn’t be considered a victim at all, but a product of his past and the city he lives in. One upstanding citizen even speculated that it was probably a drug deal gone wrong. REALLY?

If we were to look back into some of these people’s pasts, what would we find? And if we find something that is immoral, illegal or we just plain don’t agree with, what would they have to say about us judging them by their past behavior?

YOU WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE!

Man Dies Protecting His Daughter

INNOCENT?

 

Feb 15 2013

INNOCENT?

It’s simply amazing to me how quick we as human beings are to judge and condemn. I was reading an article about a Texas man who had been wrongly convicted of a murder he did not commit. He was sentenced to 99 years in 1984 for a brutal murder of a woman in 1981. DNA has proven that he was not the killer and has been set free.

The problem for some folks is prior to his conviction for the murder, he had served time and had been paroled for armed robbery. While people should have been rejoicing that a man innocent of murder was finally set free, some found fault with him because he had been a convicted felon, who I might add had done his time for this crime. Those who would not give him his due were quick to point out that he isn’t, by any means innocent. Really?

Why is it, as a society we’re continuously judged by-pass mistakes and transgressions? If a person has committed a crime, done their time and is released, why are they still branded as the most hated on the planet?

Granted there are some who are truly deserving to be watched closely, but if they turn their life around and proceed to become productive citizens, who are we to constantly bring up past mistakes?

After the ordeal that this man has suffered, I would think he would think twice before committing anymore crimes and for his sake I hope not. It seems that you can do well your entire life and make one mistake, and that mistake will be what people remember, erasing any and all past good.

A couple of Bible verses always come to mind when I hear someone rake another over the coals:

(1) ALL HAVE SINNED AND HAVE FALLEN SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD AND (2) THERE IS NO ONE RIGHTEOUS NOT EVEN ONE.

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Feb 8 2013

MEN AND LIES

Lies

Lies (Photo credit: tq2cute)

I ran across a headline that asked if R. Kelly violated the Man Code by writing his hit song When a Man Lies. Well I have a few questions of my own.

Why can’t men just tell the truth? Why must we as women have to wade through lies and deceptions when dealing with them?

Men, what is it in your make-up that makes you tell a lie before you supply the truth, but fully expects your woman to be honest and truthful at all times? And if you do find that she has been deceptive, why will you move heaven and earth to get rid of her, but at the same time, fully expects that same woman to eat up your lies with a big spoon and get over it if she catches you lying?

Men tend to lie so much that when they do tell the truth IT sounds like a lie. I wish some man somewhere would explain to me why they are incapable of telling the truth and what do you gain by lying.  In the end is it really worth it?

Feb 2 2013

YOUR MONEY? MY MONEY? WHOSE MONEY?

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I just read a comment to a news article that has me shaking my head. The article was about a woman who had left a heft tip for a waitress. The reason that this story got so much attention was it was in stark contrast to another story of a pastor who had left a question (instead of a tip) on his receipt concerning the mandatory tip. He asked why he had to give the server 18% when God only asked for 10. Well if you read the article you know that the man was raked up one side and down another. But his story isn’t what my post is about.

The woman who left the tip, felt compelled to do so after she and her husband heard about the server’s hardships (and yes they did ask). All in all it was a feel good story that should have warmed anyone’s heart, who was fortunate enough to read it.

After I read the story I scrolled down to the comment section of the article—as I normally do—to read some of the comments posted there. Well, there was only one and it threw me. The lone commenter had some questions of his own. He asked if the wife worked. He asked if it was the wife’s money to give away or her husband’s hard earn money. He ended the comment by stating that it was easy for people to give away OTHER PEOPLE’S money.

It boggles the mind that we still have people—especially men—who think like this. Just because a woman is a stay at home wife and/or mother, some people automatically think she has no job or she doesn’t work. Really?

My mother has been a stay at home wife/mother for over 40 years. I have watched her cook, clean, do laundry, take care of household management that consisted of grocery shopping, making sure that all the bills are paid and on time, in addition to carrying and  rearing four children. Hauling said children to events back and forth to school, caring for us when we were sick, etc. All of this done, while dad worked and brought home the funds to enable her to do ALL of these things. If this isn’t working, then I don’t know what is.

What kind of mentality would think that a stay at home wife/mother has no job? And furthermore would think that her husband’s money is not also considered hers. THEY ARE MARRIED, considered as one unit. What is his is hers and vice versa.

I hope that this man is not married, because I would have much pity for his wife, if he thinks this way. She has to be miserable.

 

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Jan 26 2013

FREE WILL

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While I am continually amazed by people with some of their agendas, what truly amazes me is how some people try to force their agendas and/or beliefs on those who disagree with them by hook or by crook. What happened to free will?

Probably one of the biggest agendas to date is religious beliefs. The fight that I have been following recently is the questionable tactics of a certain group to force its anti-abortion beliefs and agenda on everyone.

Although I may not agree with it, but the last time that I checked, abortion was legal. And though this may be true, we have a group, acting under religion, working hard against this fact—and that is their right. What I have a problem with are their methods in doing so.

I recently read an article where lawmakers are trying to pass a law that would make it a felony for a woman to abort a fetus conceived as a result of rape. The logic behind this? The woman would be in violation of destroying “evidence” in the state’s case against her rapist.

Any woman, who has ever been violated in this way, knows how emotionally and physically debilitating it is to get through the horror of the act itself, and to couple that with the knowledge that you are pregnant by this man is unimaginable. But to add more horror to that situation would be your local police department / prosecutor there to make sure that you carry that “evidence” to full term. So these people figure, if they can’t stop abortion in one way, they will take the LOW road, and in doing so, violate these women even more by their actions.

Abortion, outside of the fore mentioned reason, is a choice just like any other lawful, but maybe morally questionable act. What I don’t understand when it come to these overly religious types is why they think they have the right to force their or shall I say God’s will on anyone. They say that everything they do has to do with God.

I beg to differ. The last time I checked The Most High gave us ALL free will. That is the free will to believe He exists, as well as the free will of those who choose to believe that He doesn’t exist. He gave us all the free will to pick and choose (or not) what sins we wanted to commit, with the understanding that there would be consequences, but still OUR CHOICE.

So once again, where is it written that man has the right to force God’s will on me when HE WON’T?

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